Step mom shares a bed

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Darcy Davies Alsop. It has been edited for length and clarity.

By Jae Lewis — Last updated on Apr 09, I had planned to keep renting in the same area and buy an investment property in a more affordable regional area. When the housing market took a dive, I realized I could afford to buy a small apartment in a cool inner-city area. It would be a great investment for sure — but wait — what if I actually lived in it? Jo jumped at the chance to live a cool inner-city life every other week. But the plan was not just about two middle-aged parents attempting to relive their carefree youth — it also had a solid child focus. What if we could eliminate the daily torture of keeping track of her belongings and the inevitable trips between households when something was forgotten?

Step mom shares a bed

Lightning blazed across the sky, and thunder boomed in the background — our North Carolina coastal town was under a tropical-storm watch, and it was scary. I asked if he wanted to sleep in my room. Relieved, he nodded and climbed into the daybed a few feet away from my king. A few months earlier, my husband and I had separated. In North Carolina, spouses are required to live in different homes for one year before they can legally divorce. I used the transition as an opportunity to encourage my son to sleep in his own room, and for a few months, he did. But since that storm, he's wanted to stay in my room, and that's OK for now. We didn't always co-sleep. In fact, as an infant and toddler, my son slept in a crib in his own room with no issues. I was never a fan of the cry-it-out method, but I did try to minimize the time it took to get him settled at night with a solid bedtime routine: bath, bottle, book, and bed. It worked.

He felt secure in his own space and slept well, going down at the same time each night and waking up around the same time every morning. But we didn't stop.

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Hiya DS 11 and DD 7 see their dad and stepmum every other weekend, and I recently found out that they all sleep together in the lounge he has a fully furnished four bedroom house and share space and duvets. I'm not comfortable with the idea of them sharing effectively a bed in this way, wanted to check what others thought? Am I being unreasonable or am I within my rights to expect that the children sleep in their own bedrooms? How bizarre-do all 4 of them camp out in the lounge on airbeds when there are beds in all of the bedrooms? Surely this is a one off 'sleepover' type situation? As much as I love my step children I wouldn't want their little feet in my back while I'm sleeping. It happens every time they spend the weekend there, they sleep on duvets on the floor in a row. Dad, stepmum, DD, DS in that order. I found out because DD complained she had not had enough sleep because DS had kept stealing the duvet.

Step mom shares a bed

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Darcy Davies Alsop. It has been edited for length and clarity. I was annoyed when I heard that the actor Alicia Silverstone had been criticized for sharing a bed with her year-old son, Bear. It's her choice and nobody else's business. I just thought, "Her child is loved and cared for.

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My son had developed a particularly close bond with my dad, and we visited him together as often as we could. By Jae Lewis — Last updated on Apr 09, Read preview. Our second child was born when Gavin was 9. Sometimes, we'd wake up in the morning, and he'd be there between us. My husband would sleep on the bottom bunk of Gavin's bed. It was probably a combination of puberty, his own sexuality, and wanting private time. I'm relaxed about girlfriends staying with him at our home in Orange County, California. I used the transition as an opportunity to encourage my son to sleep in his own room, and for a few months, he did. Removing this layer of complexity was a no-brainer. So for now, we'll keep being roommates. Share icon An curved arrow pointing right. Co-parenting is an abstract and distant concept. These so-called "rules" about co-sleeping are ridiculous. It was a natural transition.

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We'd laugh about it being "musical beds. I'm sure that will change soon enough. Having routines and rules tied to one environment makes them easier to follow consistently. I know that I'm making plenty of mistakes as I stumble into this new life as a single mom, but letting my son sleep in my room feels like the right choice. Most people don't understand our situation. It's her choice and nobody else's business. Access your favorite topics in a personalized feed while you're on the go. He'd get up at 5. What if she could just have one set of everything in one place instead of buying doubles? I felt angry, exhausted, and irritable. Of course, being able to maintain this kind of arrangement depends on certain things being in place. He started having sleep issues, waking up earlier and earlier. Sometimes, we'd wake up in the morning, and he'd be there between us. Share Facebook Icon The letter F.